A friend in Northern Palm Beach County who signed your guestbook several days ago sent an email to me with your link.
I lost one of my identical twin girls to complications from Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome five years ago. I would be glad to offer my support as you go through this horrific time. Only those that have been initiated in the "club" to which they did not ask to be part of can truly understand the impact. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you wish. I have many resources, and as my friend mentioned in her share, there are three of us within a twenty mile radius who have gone through the loss of a twin. We have rallied for each other, and we will reach out if you ever you desire that.
Lisa (West Palm Beach)
When I read your story, and saw your page, I couldn''t help but send out prayer requests to my friends and family, for your family. I cannot fatham what you are going through, and as an expectant mother of twins, and just as a mom, a woman, friend in faith, my heart goes out to you. God Bless you and your precious babies!
I''m sorry to write again. I know it''s not the same, but I became pregnant (unexpectedly) just a few months after Aaron died. I know the fear and the emotions can be incredibly complex and there is no way to describe it or even begin to imagine what to do with it all. We went through a lot with Cameron as well, many of the same scares, almost losing him several times... All I wanted to say is that I understand some of the bewilderment that goes with all the conflicting emotions. For what it''s worth, again, I''m here if you want to talk to someone.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know there are no words that could ever even begin to heal the hole in your heart. My son Aaron was born at 24 weeks, 2 days, 1 lb. 11 oz and 13" long. He is in Heaven now, too. You are not alone. I konw you don''t know me, but if you ever need to talk to someone who has been there, please feel free to email me at email@example.com. I know sometimes it helps to talk about the time you did have, helps to keep the memory alive, helps to hold your sweet baby close to your heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you all...
We just wanted to tell you both how sorry we are for you We can not even imagine what you guys are going through. The pain of losing one child is enough for anyone to bear and when we heard we both cried for you guys. We are praying everyday and have our families praying as well. We hope and pray that your little baby boy will get to go home soon healthy and ready for you guys to take care of. Again let us know if we can help! We''re so sorry.
Sadly, you are not alone in this experience. There may not be anyone locally that you can talk to, but there is a entire online community that can offer you resources and support.
If you have not already, look at http://www.climb-support.org/index.html. They might be able to help you sort out the mixed feelings you have now.
"hi all--sounds like beeter things during the night-keep praying!!at some point,if either of you need to talk about anything-!!!!!we''re there for you!!!grandma,aunt angel & everyone says hi & hang in there-love ya lots !!!!!!
I lost one of my twin sons 5 years ago after they were born at 29 weeks. My son Tom lived for 4 days and died from an infection in the NICU. Our son Jack is now a happy, healthy, thriving 5 year old. I actually have 2 friends that I have met that have also lost a twin. I would like to be there for you in any way that I can....it is a journey and a process....it is a different kind of loss...please e-mail me whenever you want....firstname.lastname@example.org
Prayers and hugs to you both, Amy
Hi Bruce and Crystal,
I noticed in your post that you said you don''t have anyone to talk to that has lost one twin, and still has the other to care for. On my list (pprom) a mom just delivered her twins on Sunday morning. One of them had her membranes rupture a while ago, and the two of them made it several weeks. They had good weights, over 3 lbs - and were born at 30 weeks. One of them passed away about 9 hours after birth. If you want, I could put you in contact with them. Their other little one is still in the hospital, and she is doing well. It will be a long road for her though. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Bruce, I kind of know how you feel. When Skylin was so ill and Dylan was doing great it was hard to express or understand the feelings. 50% of you is excited and 50% is torn to peices. Your case is probably harder with the loss of Railey. Just remember Railey would want you to be excited for her brother. Trust me, she is very proud of him and only want the best for him too. She too wants you to be proud and excited for him.
Cyrstal, I got your PM and I am here if you ever need me. Everyone understands that you need this time to grieve and be strong for Ryland. They will all be there when you are ready to talk. NO ONE will be upset. Hang in there sweetie! We continue to not only pray for baby Ryland, however for you and Bruce to remain strong through this and stong for your baby boy.
"hi"just a few lines to let you know we"re thinking of every one.stay strong!!!love ya!!keep praying,love ya,grandma says she''s thinking of you,too!& she love''s ya.hope to talk to you soon....love ya !!!!!!!
Dear Bruce and Crystal, We are deeply saddened to hear of Railey''s passing. We''re very sorry. You both as well as Ryland will be in our thoughts and prayers. I know it must be the most painful thing in life you can possibly endure. I can''t even imagine! Just know you did everything you possibly could do for her. Just know that even for the very short time she was on this earth, you two were the very best parents you could possibly be, and you showed her a lot of love in the time she was with you. Stay as strong as you can for Ryland. I have lots of people praying for you.
I am soo sorry for your loss. I can never imagine what you are going through lossing another child. But I do agree with your mom. We all know that in heaven Grandma and Mom are holding Railey and Trace and I am sure they are spoiling them rotten. We are praying everyday for Ryland and I know he can make it. You guys need to focus all you attention on him right now. I know you guys can be strong and just remember that you have plenty of support behind you and we are all a call away.
I don''t know either of you, but read your post on FertilityFriend and wanted to tell you how sorry I am and that I will send you many, many prayers. My daugher passed away 6 months ago at 28 weeks and I know the pain and heartbreak that you feel. Just know that she is perfect and complete in Heaven and one day you will see her and hold her again.
The love that both you and Crystal feel for one another, and the depth of your loss comes through vividly in your writings. Don''t ever forget that God is with you every second and holding you two in His Arms. Remember, Christ cried when his friend Lazareth died. God has given you tears to help wash away the angonizing pain of losing Railey. Raily will be with you always and greet you in eternity someday.
She is still your little girl, but has gone before you to a much better. safer place. You two gave her "being". Without you and Crystal, Raily never would have existed or had an opportunity to have a soul and become one of God''s Children. She is happy with God and "healthy". Railey is whole in eternity.
I am sure she will be watching over you and her brother with the same love that you showed her during her brief stay here on earth. Right now, two of your family members are in Heaven. God gave you Ryland and I am sure he will always feel the presence of his little sister. Nothing is impossible with God. What will be, will be.
Love will help sustain you. Understanding will come in bits and pieces and some questions will only come when you are with Our Heavenly Father. Please know that others are helping your carry this cross and care about you beyond Florida. You, Crystal and Ryland are in my thoughts daily and I know God must Love you two very much. Your friend in Las Vegas, Janet
I pray for your family -that Ryland continues to grow stronger every day, and you take him home when he is ready, and that he continue to grow for numerous years to come. I pray for strength for you both during this time of need. Take care and God bless.
Crystal my little girl and Bruce my Son in law. I sit here and wonder why this had to happen to you two again. I can not figure it out. I know Railey is watching over you with her brother Trace. Focus on Ryland know and and be strong for him I know they will help him along. I will let you call us when you are ready to talk. All our prayers are with the three of you. We love you all. DAD
Bruce,Crystal and Ryland,I am sorry about Railey and all emotions that you must be going through right now.Can''t imagine how you feel.Railey is now heaven with big brother Trace.I will keep on praying for the you 3 and try to stay strong for Ryland who also is in my thoughts and prayers as is Trace and Railey and also both of you.You guys mean alot to me and I love you guys very much and nobody should have to go through all this especially you guys.Love You guys CFC
Bruce and Crystal,
I am so sadden to hear of your loss of your beautiful daughter Railey. I believe that God only puts as much weight on our shoulders as we can bear. The two of you certainly have carried alot of weight on your shoulders, but are strong enough to carry much more. Ryland needs his Mom and Dad more than ever now. Be strong. Give that child as much love as you can give. Railey is now an angel of God and she is watching over her Mom, Dad and big brother now. She will keep you all safe. My prayers and thoughts are with you always. May God Bless you in your time of sorrow.
It is with the great sadness to learn of Railey''s brief stay here on earth. God''s Work was completed for her here on earth. Your little angel is back with God and all the Saints in Heaven. I want to share with you a poem I received when I lost my 11 year old son over 30 years ago.
"I''ll lend you for a little time, a child of Mind, He said."
"For you to love the while, she lives, amd mourn for whan she is dead".
She''ll bring her charms to gladden you and her stay shall be brief.
You will have her lovely memories as solace for your grief.
"I cannot promise Railey will stay, since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down here I want this child to learn.
I have looked the world-wide over in my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life''s lanes, I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love, nor think the labor vain.
Nor hate ME when I come to call to take her back again?"
I fancied that I heard Him say "Dear Lord" Thy Will Be Done!
For all the joy Thy Child shall bring, the risk of grief I will run.
I will shelter Railey with tenderness, I will love her while I may,
And for the happiness I have known, forever grateful stay;
But shall the angels call for Railey much sooner than I have planned, I will brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.
May God Bless you and shelter you in His Loving Arms. Janet
My heart and stomach just took a flip when I read my little Kelsey''s webpage that you had signed. I am just sooooooo sorry for the loss of your daughter. I know all too well what this means to you, especially losing a multiple. NEC is such a horrible disease and it comes on so quickly. My heart goes out to you and your family at such a hard time. Be gentle on yourself and keep her memory alive forever. Please email me anytime. I am here for you both.
Hugs from Michigan,
Crystal I am so sorry that this has happened to you and I hope you know that I am here for you if you need anything. I am going to give you some time before I call you but,if you need someone to talk to I am here. All you can do is be strong for your baby boy.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious angel Railey. You are all in my prayers. I lost my son Aidan on May 16th, and I wanted to share a touching poem we read at his funeral: it is called FLUFF UP THE CLOUDS
Call Heaven there''s an Angel
That''s coming home today.
Our hearts are sad and broken
Because she couldn''t stay.
Fluff up the clouds and lay her
Gently in Your care.
Place the tiny halo
Softly in her hair.
Our arms no longer hold her
Our lips no longer kiss
The velvet of her cheeks.
We were not prepared for this.
In our hearts will be a tiny hole
Where always she will be.
Because we wanted her so much
Our hearts will always grieve.
How sad we had to lose you
We hope that this was best.
Sleep softly precious Angel
In God''s eternal rest
I do not have the words to express how sorry I am for your loss. I can''t pretend to imagine what you are going through because I have never been there. I will say that God has a plan for you and that most of the time we don''t understand that plan until you reach the end of it. Our pastor always tells us that God does not deliver us from a situation but he delivers us through the situation. Never stop praying and trusting God. We will continue to pray for you both and that precious baby boy.
Crystal and Bruce ~
Words cannot say how sorry we are for the loss of your princess. We are praying for Ryland that he gets strong and big and can be home soon, and we pray also for strength and confort for you and your families. We love you!
Lora and Jonathan Strazinsky
Bruce and Crystal,
There are no words to express our absolute shock and grief at hearing about your loss. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.We have been there and our sincere hope was that you would never go down the same path.
May God give you all strength.
God bless you all,
Neil and Beryl
I have been reading about their progress since they were born. First of all I wanted to say congratulations. I also wanted to say that I am praying for Ryland hoping he stays strong and can go home with you soon. I am just so sorry for your loss I know it has to be so hard, my little girl isn''t even born yet and I already love her so much, I can just imagine how much more the love grows when you get to look into their eyes and touch their delicate skin. You already had to endure this once before and I was praying so hard this wouldn''t happen to you lovely people again. My blessings go out to you, Crystal, Ryland and your two beautiful angels. Ryland hand in there buddy your parents love you very much and want you to come home soon.
we are so sorry for your loss of Princess Railey Marie Brooks. We know your hearts are heavy and aching, but continue to put your faith in the Lord to give you both strength and encourgement.
You know that precious Angel is in heaven now and is probably being rocked by Grandma Beaubouef or Aunt Reba right now. So, Railey must be happy where she is because she has no more pain to go through anymore.
Son, I pray for you and Crystal to try and raise your spirits and much as you can. I know its hard because my heart is hurting now also for Railey and Ya''ll and last be not least our boy Ryland. We will continue to pray for Ryland that he will not get this NEC and that he will continue to grow so that ya''ll can take him home.
I am so thankful that I had a chance to put my hands on Railey and talk to her, that was really special to me and I will never forget it.
Bruce & Crystal, remember I am only a phone call alway if you need me day or night. And, ya''ll are loved so much. PRAY!PRAY!PRAY!