Weston was born at 7:16 a.m. on December 28, weighing 3 lb 12 oz. He''s doing great, breathing on his own with no feeding issues. Please keep him and Crystal in your prayers and we''ll try to update this as much as possible. Thank you!
So in 5 more days we will be in uncharted territory in pregnancy. So far cervix is looking great no shortening and no funneling. Having a few contractions and some pressure at times but, nothing that laying down and relaxing doesn''t fix. So so far all good marks for my body I just have to keep praying my body continues to behave.
Ryland is very excited about meeting his baby brother as well. He got a sneek a pic on a sonogram today so he was thrilled with that. He however knows that Weston still has a little bit to bake in mommies oven.
Update on Ryland he is growing so much he will be 5 next month and just thinking about it makes me a little sad. My baby is growing more and more and im not even close to letting him go as my baby. He is doing well in school and seems to be doing a little better with his head banging and outburst. His speech is amazing and well we have the tee tee part of potty training down he just cant get the number 2 down. Still working on it though. His therapists says encourage it and try but, don''t get upset about it that it will click in his head just like everything else it just takes time. We are still on some waiting list for some behavior modification therapy to see if that can help us all out. ;)
Will update again very soon. Hope everyone is doing well!
Well, here we are still going strong. HAd my cerclage placed at 14 weeks and everything has been good so far. We have an appt tomorrow with our high risk doc and im hoping to get a good peak at the goods. I promise once we hear everyone will know also. Although I wont put 100% into what we hear until we hear the same thing over and over. Im also hoping to be getting a 4d u/s done soon want to get it done before/if I get put on bedrest.
Now on to Ryland. He loves school once he gets there. Every morning he has a new excuse as to I cant go to school cause I have to stay home and love you. That I must is my favorite excuse every. The others cause its about to rain and im too hot. Also, I already went and im done having fun. LOL....that boy is a trip. He is very excited about the baby and he plays alot of the time with his imaginary baby. He is also getting very spoiled in having all his grandparents around. My mom and dad now both live here and Bruce''s parents live here as well so he is very spoiled on the grandparents. Enough chatter I will update everything including photos ASAP.
So I hope everybody is ready for another ride. Hoping this one wont be to eventful. Due in Feb. got to hear the heart rate today 145 by the way (think pink);). So next steps are High Risk Doctor, Cerclage at 14 weeks progesterone shots starting at 16 weeks and then hold our breath until 24 weeks. So those are the first things. I will keep everyone up to date as to the happenings of our new one as much as I can. Im sure Bruce will posting as well.
P.S. I will be working on uploading more pics of Ry as he is getting so big and has hit a mental growth spert. Hes a very smart little boy.
Well, this was Ry''s first year of school and its almost over. He is doing very well and I just can''t believe how far we have come or shall I say he has come. We are getting ready to start our TTC journey again so im very excited and nervous about this. I know we have LOADS of support from family and friends. Today is Rylands first school play so I will be posting some up to date pics and the video of his play today. Thanks to all who still keeps up with us and sorry for being so behind on updates.
Alright, this may be the last time we update this baby page. Facebook is our main option for releasing news etc. Search for Crystal Brooks or Bruce Brooks in Deville, LA and you should be able to find us on there.
Ryland will be 4 on November 25 and we''re really excited for him. he has been going to school, in a pre-pre-k noncat grade. After almost 3 months, he loves school and really is progressing with his speech and motor skills. Now, he is stil having issues with the issues under the autism spectrum but, I don''t think those wil every go away but, he would be considered a high-functioning child. We''re truly proud of him and look forward to him coming home each day.
Below is the link, to Crystals FB page so, we hope to see you guys there.
Thank you so much, to everyone that is still getting these updates, there are 50 of you now. Talk to you guys soon.
Well...Well, Its been ages at least it seems so. Ry is doing very well. He is a 3 year old boy now. So im waiting for those terrible 2 tantrums to stop. So far I think they are getting worse. HaHa. Nothing new to really report just that he is having a teacher come in once a week to work with him and maybe we can get him in a PRE, PRE K program since he is still showing some major delays. Just wanted to let everyone know were still around and doing well. Hope everyone is doing the same.
Ok so I know we haven''t been keeping everyone up to date but, this means we have no bad news. So as the saying goes no news is good news. ;)
Ryland is growing so fast now! He is turning into my little man. He is off of the GFCF diet and doing ok so far. It has only been 2 days but, its looking good. The last time he was off of it for 4 days before any GI symptoms occurred so we will see what happens. He will be 3 in November and it seems like time is starting to fly by now. His vocabulary is getting pretty good now. Although it seems he still has his own language that me and dad can tell what his saying but for other people they really have to focus. HaHa. He loves to say the word shirt and point at your shirt but, it doesn''t sound like shirt when he says it. He seems to leave out the R sound. So we have a few public moments where we had to let everyone know his saying SHIRT. LOL Me and Bruce were watching some old videos of him and OMG....does it give me baby fever. We are trying to wait another year before adding to our family so im trying to get the cure for the fever fast. Ryland loves babies. His special baby is baby Beau or shall I say baby boo. So his showing some signs that his ready also. However we all know its different when it comes to having a baby around 24/7. Oh well we both have to wait. ;) So that''s about it we are just relaxing and enjoying our summer. I hope everyone else is as well.
Well, its Thursday night and I know im a little late in posting this but, everything went really good with Ry on Weds. The doc said he did have fluid on both of his ears so he drained them and they look good now. He also, said he had some pretty big adenoids so those truly needed to come out. I''m so proud of my little boy he was a tropper. I can already tell a difference in his speech. He is making some new sounds and his new word is COW. Sounds very funny when he says it but, he actually uses the C sound. We have a pretty busy week ahead again. Grandpa Miller is coming down for a 9 day visit. Woohoo....I know he was just here but, Ryland loved having him around plus I have TONS of handy man stuff for him to do around the house. We are also thinking about getting the pool heated so if we do it we can save some money by having my dad do it. Which is always a plus in my book. We are having a new air conditioner put in on Weds. since the one we have is about to die out on us. I want to get it replaced before the HOT weather hits. We are also getting both porches screened in. Here in Louisiana the bugs could pick you up and carry you off somewhere if your not careful. So this will make those nice nights outside even better (bug free). Well, I think that''s it for now. I just wanted to update everyone on Ry. I haven''t been feeling well so I have been slacking on getting on here. I hope im back to normal (for me)soon haha.
We got up this morning and it looked like it was going to rain. So we hurried up and put Ryland on the potty and bam he went pee pee in it. I was so excited. Then we got dressed showed Ry his basket and then headed outside to do the egg hunt. At first he wasn''t interested but, by the end of it he was into it. I got some pics so I will upload them at some point today. I just wish it would have been bright and sunny outside.
Also, Ryland went pee pee in the potty for a second time. WooHoo...im still not sure if his ready. For some reason I remember hearing that when they come up and tell you that they are stinky or wet then its time. He doesn''t do that just yet but, if I take him to the bathroom every 30 min maybe he will catch on. He does know what to do when I say lets go sit on your potty chair so maybe he does know what we are doing. If anyone has any potty training advise or tips I would appreciate it.
Ryland will be having tubes put in and adenoids taking out as well on the 22nd of April. We have been battling with ear problems for a while. It seems like he is always having fluid on both ears or ear infections. So everyone keep us in your thoughts please.
Take Care and I hope everyone enjoys their Easter!!!
First, happy Birthday Trace, its been 3 years, since we said goodbye. Mommy and I love you very much. You''ll always be our baby. I just wish I could squeeze and give you lots of kisses today. We love you little man.
Now, Ryland is doing absolutely wonderful, since the diet. It seems as, if he is picking up a new word, just about every day or every other day now. We can''t get this boy to stop talking now, its great. The headbanging isn''t changing much, he still does it when he gets mad or upset about anything. We just redirect him away from the situation, to avoid him getting upset about the issue at hand. There is so much more, to tell but, just don''t have much time today. As I type this, he is, what sounds like, trying to sing the dora theme song. Okay, thats it for now and we''ll update more soon. Again, if anyone knows any parents with autistic children, mention the GFCF diet to them, please. Bye for now!
Hello! Okay, we know its been a while since we updated everyone on Ry''s progress. Well, its been a bumpy couple of months but, we''ll catch everyone up to date.
Although, Crystal and I really do not know for sure but, when Ryland recieved his MMR shot back in November, his world began to change. He started throwing some rather dangerous tantrems toward himself. This included banging his head on doors, glass, floors, and pretty much anything, he could get his head on. It was mostly when he was upset or was told not to do something. although, there were many times, when he would do it for fun, as we know now the correct term for it is self-stimulation. a few other rare and odd things were that he would slap himself in the head randomly and try to hurt himself in any way possible, just about. Long story short, he didn''t cause any serious injuries.
After several months of this going on, we knew there had to be something else rolling around in my little mans head. There were foods, that he use to like and wouldn''t eat anymore. Ryland began saying Momma back in october but, that quit once he recieved his MMR shot as well. After speaking with many many people and doing lots of research, we ended up at autism. Before you take a deep breath, its not too bad.
After speaking with the early steps program, we had him evaluated for autism. He had several points that he failed and indicated some form of autism. as everyone already knows, Ryland has been allergic to milk from the day, he was discharged from the NICU. Well, he has been on Hemp Milk since october and doing great. After the Autism test, we started researching information on Autism and what our next steps would be, at this point. After reading the wikipedia page on Autism, I read something about GFCF Diets. Well, I googled "Autism milk allergy" and what we began to read would begin to blow us away.
The GFCF diet is a Gluten Free & Casein Free Diet. Casein is primarily found in all dairy products and doesn''t bother the average person, like Crystal and I. To Ryland, Casein is like a poison, to apart of the brain. Many people describe is as, being hooked up to a machine that is pumping morphine into them. here is a description in greater detail, copied from an autism website.
"Briefly, gluten is a protein, and so is casein. Gluten is a protein fraction found in all wheat, rye, barley, and most oat products. Casein is a protein fraction found in all dairy products. To most Autistic children, gluten and casein are the equivalent of poison. They leak into the gut, undigested, and attach to the opiate receptors of the autistic''s brain. Essentially, many autistic children are "drugged" on wheat and milk products, as if they were on a morphine drip."
Well, after discovering this information and without any doctors help at this point, we decided this had to be done. We started this on February 15, his last day eating GFCF foods was Valentine''s Day. It has now been a total of 11 days on the diet and God has blessed us again.
After 11 days, he now says Momma, Dada, Fishy, eat, and it working on spitting out so many other words. Ryland hadn''t been able to point at anything up until this point and just two days ago, he was asked where his nose was, by Crystal. Ryland took his pointer finger and placed it on his nose. When he had his therapy today, which he has been having for over one year now. In the previous year, she would always have to ask him to come play, he wouldn''t let her guide his hands toward toys, he would never invite her to come play with his toys, and has never given her a hug or even shown the desire to do such a thing. When his meeting was over yesterday, he did every single one of those things without effort. In the past, he would never watch TV, for more than a minute or two at a time. Just yesterday, Crystal noticed him actually watching it and focused on what was going on within the show. There are a few other smaller things, that he is doing but, we''ll wait for those, until bigger examples happen for them. Oh yeah, he rarely keeps those jaws closed, always talking about something. This brings us to one of the biggest topics. Never, in his life, has he displayed pretend play. Now, you can just say the word "Hello!" and he will raise his hand to his ear and play, as if he is on the phone, having a conversation. No, we really don''t have a clue, who is on the other end. We looked for a caller ID, in his palm but, nothing was there.
Before starting this diet, we had read many stories of children, that had went on this diet, for the exact same reasons. It truly seemed, as if it would be impossible, for this to work. My God, we are true believers now and we are extremely pleased with the results in the first 11 days. Now, most people report seeing noticeable results after 3 weeks. I cannot even wait, to see what kind of progress, he will make in the coming weeks. This is something, that all parents of autistic children, should at least read up on and give it a shot, if possible. I would just and I don''t like to use this word but, hate to know that someone won''t try it, due to doubts about the system. There is nothing that we won''t do, to help our miracle baby boy out, he is our world and our life. Actress jenny mccarthy is the most popular mom, that put her child on the GFCF diet and it worked for her as well. Yes, its a very exspensive diet but, can be pretty cheap, as long as your willing to prepare everything and cook in bulk. This way, you can freeze your foods and have your own frozen dinners ready for your child. Crystal and I are going to switch as much as possible to the diet as well so, he doesn''t feel left out. Just for the record, if anyone ever sees him; family, friends, or whomever, do not ever give him any food. If he were to eat anything that contained gluten or casein, it would send him into a regression. We ask everyone, please, do not give him anything to eat.
Well, its very late and I gotta get some sleep. We hope everyone can keep Ry in their prayers and hope this diet can continue to help him. If anyone has any questions or needs help with anything, Crystal and I are always willing to help. Just put your e-mail address in the guestbook and we''ll contact you. May God Bless You and Your Family!
P.S. We have several DR appointments over the next couple months but, we''ll keep everyone updated, as things happen
We lost our little girl! I really dont have much to say. We are just very sad today. The weather is very rainey and cold so our mood fits the gloomy weather thats for sure. WE LOVE & MISS YOU RAILEY! :(
This is Ryland, the birthday boy himself. First, I must thank everyone, whom wished me a Happy Birthday today. It was truly the best birthday that I''ve had all year, get it? Ok Ok
When I first woke up this morning, Mommy sang the birthday song and gave me kisses. She is the best mommy in the world, no doubt about it. Then, we all started getting ready, as she told me a special surprise was planned for today. I think to myself "Surprise, its gonna be a good day, I can feel it". I didn''t say that, because, well, I don''t know any of those words obviously. Then again, you guys probably already knew that. We all loaded up and were on our way to the surprise, my Grandpa met us in the parking area and we started our way to the surprise.
Mommy & Daddy took me, to this place called Chuck E Cheese. They have pizza, games, rides, and funny dancing animals. Okay, at home we want to keep the mouse creatures away and they have a huge mouse at this place. Okay, I was okay with the weirdness of that, at this point. Then, the unthinkable happened, this mouse started talking and singing. I''m not sure about everyone else but, this makes my weirdometer go off the scale. Mommy said that he was going to dance with me and make everyone sing happy Birthday to me. She always keeps me safe so, I''m thinking to myself, "lets do it". Mr. Cheese was super nice and even let me squeeze his nose a couple times. Don''t worry, mommy has photos and she''ll put them on here very soon. Plus, I rode in this super cool car, like 20 times and some other crazy rides. Plus, I recieved many presents and only ate french fries, because they are super good. You guys, know what I''m talking about, there isn''t anything better than a happy meal.
My only wish was that my baby sis could have spent the day with me too. I know she was watching from above and sending me lots of love. I love you Rai and miss you every day.
Well, this day is just about over and I need to get some night nights. Thank you so much, to those, who came to my party today and can''t wait for my other party on Sunday with the otherside of the family. happy Thanksgiving to everyone and buy me lots of stuff on Friday. Wait, daddy made me type that.
Howdy! Okay, I know Crystal does most of the posting and I don''t have the gift of gab, to make statements often. Although, today is much different.
Currently, its 3:22 a.m. on Tuesday, November 25, 2008. Just two years ago, we were proud parents of two very beautiful babies and still are to this day. We couldn''t have even imagined, what 15 days later would do to us emotionally. As I write this, I''m crying with the thoughts of our baby girl. The reality that was forced upon us on December 10, was the worse day of my entire life. November 25 will always come every year and will bring happyness and sadness. I''m sure everyone knows this already but, its so bittersweet for us. We will never take away from the happyness of Ry''s birthday, until he wants to and can understand what happened. Crystal & I pondered a few minutes a couple nights ago, how we would tell him and when we would tell him. It obviously will be, when we feel he is mature enough to handle it. Although, we will never keep it a secret and if he asks us, we will tell him about it, at that point. Ry hopefully will never feel half the pain we have fellt by losing Railey.
Crystal & I are planning to get pregnant again, in early 2010. Many people, assume that we have had too much heartbreak, to want a new pregnancy. This is not the case and we are going another round, in hopes we can have another girl. We can just hope and pray that everything will go great and we''ll bring home a healthy baby. Now, on to the birthday boy.
Ryland was born at 1:11 a.m. on november 25 so, he is officially two years old right now. Two years ago, he weighed under two pounds and now weighs more than 10 times, what he weighed at birth. Then, he had no teeth and now its like a human version of Jaws. he started with 3 cc''s of formula and now will destroy a small bag of cheese puffs. Two years ago, he was just strong enough to squeeze our fingers a little bit and now he runs through the house like an Olympic runner. There are no words, to describe how proud we are of him.
happy Birthday Ry, may all your dreams and wishes come true. I hope this day will bring you lots of joy and lots of toys, for many more years to come.
After the birthday madness is over, we wil be posting lots of new photos and videos. also, a new DVD is in the works and will be available in the next couple months. We''ll have lots of great videos and unseen photos on the DVD.
Well here we are Nov 24th and tomorrow is approaching fast. For the last 3 days I have felt so uneasy and sad. I keep thinking about my sweet Railey. I HATE that shes not here it hurts my heart so bad that it really does ache. The only way I stop crying is to stop thinking about it. Then I feel awful about not thinking about her. Its like a fight in side of myself. Whats right what should I do what would she want. I''m trying to be so happy for Ryland and for us. We are truly blessed to have him and I tell myself not to be so selfish but, whats selfish about wanting ALL you babies to be alive and healthy. It cuts me deep when we go clothes shopping and I see all the little girls clothes and I know I should be shopping for those as well. I can''t sleep at all. I went to bed after 1 am and was awake at 5 am thinking about her again. I pray every night just to dream of her and Trace and it seems like I haven''t had one for a long time. The last one I had was horrible. It was just a reply of the day they told us there was nothing more they could do for her. I know it will be a little better after the holidays. Thanksgiving, Birthday then in December her passing and then christmas. Its just so hard not to envision her celebrating her 2nd birthday along side of her brother.
I''m torn between how do we celebrate this day for her. So im really struggling here. Nothing we do will bring her back and to remind myself of that it kills me. Sorry for the venting of my sadness but, I need to get it out. Bruce is also feeling very down. I found out that he mourns alone most of the time. I guess he does it for the same reason I do it. We don''t want to bring each other down. I know there''s nothing wrong with being sad and having a good cry but, sometimes for me its better to do it alone as im sure he feels the same. We both know we are really mourning our little girl right now and we know we can count on each other for support. Sometimes nothing has to be said to know what one is feeling. All in all please remember our little girl on her birthday. I think that''s what scares us the most. People not remembering her. Thanks for the ear im off to get my day started.
Trace, Railey and little bean We miss you very much and love you even more. You all will be in our hearts forever. Please keep watch over your brother. It brings us comfort knowing he has 3 guarding angels watching over him.
My Second Birthday in Heaven
Calling all the angels--
It''s a special day today!
For Raileys turning two!
Here''s what she has to say:
"Mommy, please dry all your tears;
I know you miss me so.
And if it had been up to me,
I''d never have chosen to go."
"For I knew that you would miss me
And the things that we could do,
And I wish I could have stayed on earth
And lived down there with you."
"But, Mommy, now I''m well and whole;
I sing and play all day
With all the angel boys and girls
Who''ve come to heaven to stay."
"Lord Jesus holds us in His arms
And tells us of His love;
He knew that we were hurting--
That''s why we came above."
"I love you, Mommy, every day;
I send you kisses, too.
And some day you will join me here
And I''ll always be with you."
"I''ve got to go--the party''s on!
We''ll sing and dance and play.
But I am always in your heart
And never far away."
"Please find a way to celebrate,
Even if you cry;
Perhaps you''ll send me some balloons
Soaring to the sky."
"And I will know they came from you,
And I''ll be flying near.
I send you love and kisses, too.
I love you, Mommy, dear."
Well, his costume arrived and is WAY to BIG. It might fit him when his 4. (shakes head) Come to find out the website has sizes posted for another county so the 1-2 that I bought was really a 2-4. So im just hoping they will let me return it before Halloween. Any who I did order a new costume from a different place and now hes going to be.............................
A FURTURE FISHERMAN...LOL.....it comes with a hat with fake bait on it a vest and a fake rod and reel with fake fish. So I hope he likes it and I will be taking pics as well. So so far that''s it im hoping that this one fits him. So if not im sure you all will hear about it. GIGGLE
Have a great week and Happy Columbus Day!
Oh how could I forget the MOST IMPORTANT PART OF ME WRITING THIS UPDATE.
Ryland has been calling me Momma for 2 days now. He goes around the house calling for me and OMG its like music to my ears to know he is saying and looking for me. Also, I have been begging for kisses from him since before he was born he-he and last night he gave me 2 kisses in a row smack dab on my lips. I was so excited and well of course he thought I was a little loony. So that''s my BIG UPDATE. I will do my best to try and get some video of it. Well, im off to start my work for the day.
We decided that Ry''s going to be (drum roll...........)
SCOOBY DOOBY DOO....it''s a very cute costume and should arrive in a couple days. I can''t wait until I try it on him.
Also, i''ll give a little update on his milk and soy allergy. He was doing really good on the goats milk but, starting having a little reaction to it so we tried a few other things and right now we are settled on hemp milk. Yes, its the same that''s in marijuana but, it has no THC in it at all. It''s sold in several grocery stores. He seems to really like it and so far its working he hasn''t had a reaction to it yet. Although it hasn''t been all that long since he started it. I will update if anything changes.
Well, we made it back in one piece. However we arrived a little ill. Ryland caught a cold the day before we headed back home. Which I had planned for that being around so many kids and all. It was GOOD to see everyone. I miss my mom and sister and all my nieces and nephews very much. It''s only been 10 months since I saw them last and they have grown like weeds. We had a great visit in Orlando & and Jacksonville Beach as well. We had a very nice suite on the beach but, of course it was a rainy and nasty day so didn''t get a chance to get any beach pics yet. We went to Sea World in Orlando so I have included a couple pics from one of the shows. I didnt upload all the pics from the park cause im dead tired and now im just waiting for the pics to upload so I can get some sleep. When I get a chance I will upload more of those pics. Ryland seemed to like it but, boy was it HOTT so we ended up leaving early. Most of the time we sat around and just plain did nothing so it felt great. Ryland is still getting over the cold and he seems to be growing a lot. Still no clear words spoken but, I have all the time in the world to wait. GIGGLE I''m in the process of looking for a good Halloween costume so if you have any ideas throw them at me. LOL Alright im heading to bed im exhausted and the boys are already out so that means the ticker is ticking and its only a matter of time before the day will be starting over. I hope everyone enjoys their weekend.
On a sad note:
I lost my aunt Linda to cancer a little over 2 weeks ago. It happened when we were on vaca. She will be forever missed and loved. I know shes up their looking after my little ones now.
Well, long story short Gustav came our way and made it to where we couldn''t go on vacation. So we are trying to go for the second time now. We are leaving next week and im so EXCITED. My grandparents wont be there but, my mom and siblings will be so I think that in its self will make it worth the road trip. So fingers crossed all goes well and we will leave as planned.
Onto Ry''s update now:
Well, he is growing so much. He is wearing size 18 months now although they are still a little big. He LOVES his Nike shoes. Something about the check on the side that he loves. He is making sounds starting with S now. He is also, saying words in twos. Well, not words but, his words. So he''s trying. He gets up and down on our bed now. He climbs everything he can and he loves to try and help me do everything. He loves shutting doors so every chance he gets he is right behind me. Sometimes he closes them on me and himself. LOL He knows what BATH means and boy let me tell you have to be careful on when you say it cause when its said it better be done ASAP. He seems to be having a little trouble with his eyes. They keep going cross eyed when ever he really is focusing on something so we are waiting to see a specialist about that and go from there. The doc thinks his eyes might just be a little weak. Alright I think that''s it. Will update when we get back from vacation and I will have lots of pictures to show off as well. Thanks to everyone who is still checking in on our miracle.
Hi everyone mom here to let everyone know whats going on with Ry. He is really coming right along in the babbling area. He is using words such as momma and dada and he even seems to be calling me ma ma and dad dada so that''s new. I did have him in daycare for a couple days but, guess what he got sick so we decided to go ahead and pull him out and wait to try again around 2 years old. He only went for 2 days and stayed for 3 hours. I thought it would be best to pull him now so he wouldnt be sick on the trip. So now dad is getting it and im praying it stays away from me.
Me, Bruce, Ry and Glammy Lila will be leaving for Florida next week. We are very excited about the trip. We are driving so it will be an adventure. My grandparents are flying down so it will be a little family get together. I cant wait for my mom and sister to see how big Ryland has got. I have been pushing for Grandma Loretta to come stay with us but, shes a busy woman and we have to share her with everyone. LOL I will update everyone about the trip when we get back and I will take lots of pics.
Onto new toys...Ry got a step2 play slide and he loves it. He slides down this thing every way possible. This boy can do alot more then I give him credit for. I really never thought he would try to slide face first on his belly but, the 2nd day of having it there he is eating carpet. LOL He also LOVES his soccer ball. He goes through the house all day kicking this thing around so we might have a little soccer player. Im getting ready to post some new pics so check in soon. Hope everyone''s doing well.
Just please don''t get upset with me, after all I am the cutest Brooks in the family, hands down. I took a vote today while napping and all agreed. It doesn''t matter, if I was the only one present for the vote. Lets get on with my update.
Ear infection, after ear infection, and more ear infections. I keep getting them and they just keep on coming back so, not sure why the antibiotics aren''t working properly. Although, Nurse Becky said last week, that they were looking alot better. Almost all of my teeth are up and I am a mean cheeto eating machine. I''m not sure if anyone has ever had those but, they are quite wonkalicious.
Oh yeah, I''m still allergic to regular milk, after a summer test from my parents. The goats milk isn''t that bad though, beats that old formula, thats for sure. There aren''t many things, that I can''t eat at this point. My parents won''t let me have seafood yet, I have to wait until I''m 2 corrected age. Oh yeah, Nestle Quik is the bomb, I love me some chocolate milk. It makes the goats milk, that much better, for sure.
Okay, this summer has been lots and lots of fun. Since mommy & daddy had the pool installed this year. We have been swimming alot and they even bought me, my own little baby pool. It''s shaped like a froggy and I swim inside his mouth, its soooo much fun. I have my water toys in there and I just spend most of my time splashing and splashing and splashing. I''m not even two, what else can I do at this point? Mommy also got me a water/sand table that I can play with outside too. I can''t wait for the day, wehn I can get my own car, shouldn''t be too much longer. Can anyone tell me, how long 15 years takes? I can''t imagine it taking too long to get here.
Oh yeah, mommy & daddy have been glued to the TV & internet this summer. I keep hearing something about "Big Brother" and evictions and other stuff. Let me just say, its quite BORRRRRRRRRRRRRING. Let me watch some shushy-bye concert or baby tv and I''m ready to go. I know there aren''t many news updates anymore but, nothing much happens excluding playing, eating, swimming, napping, eating, playing, eating, playing and more playing. I''m just glad that I''m not really sick anymore, like when I was just born.
Just know that I always will love, those who prayed for me and Railey when, we were in the hospital. We still miss her bunches and think about her daily. I gotta go though, bedtime is almost here and I wanna get some more chocolate milk, before I go to sleep.
Hope everyone had a great 4th of July! We had a fin time lounging around the house. We had a few family members over and just relaxed. Ryland is feeling well after his ear infections and teething episodes. He has 14 teeth now and let me be the first to say don''t go sticking your fingers in his mouth he bites. LOL Its hard to think that his 2nd birthday is just around the corner. My baby is getting so big. He really isn''t saying any words yet but, I think he''s working on it. He likes to try and help me with house cleaning. Trying to vacuum now and he helps me put clothes in the dryer as well now. He loves to kick his soccer ball all around the house. I will try and get video of it cause its SOOOOOO cute. Other then that we are just enjoying our son and watching him grow. We are very pleased to have a few people keeping an eye on our little guy as well. Thanks to everyone who still has us in their prayers. Hopefully Ry can find time in his busy schedule to do an update for him self soon. ;) Take Care.....
Well, lets just say we have a cup drinker now! Ryland is totally off the bottle now! He has been drinking from a cup for almost 2 weeks and he is doing very well. Now, if we can only get him to talk more. GIGGLE He has also been showing a im the boss side. So we are trying to get that in check now. We just got home from Baton Rouge where we went on a shopping spree and our little man got to pick out some great toys. Our swimming pool and deck are now complete and we have been soaking up the sun. I have some pics so when I get some free time I will upload them. Thanks again for staying up to date with our little boy!!!
Well, all I can really say at this point is DaDa and BaBa & some other random noises. Mommy thinks its quite odd, that I can type thousands of words yet, I can only say a couple. Okay Okay Okay, I really can talk, just am doing it at my own speed. As I was saying, in my header, the pool is ready. Mr Bax just finished building the deck all the way around the pool yesterday and we''ve already been swimming. Let me just say that, its a gigantic bathtub, its super big. Also, that water is very cold, daddy says it will be much more fun, once it warms up outside. They are going to teach me how to swim, as soon as possible. Daddy is installing alarms, like he is protecting a bank or something. Mommy said, they have locks on the gates and a pool alarm as well. Daddy was saying forget Disney World, gas prices are higher than the tickets to see Mickey and the rest of the clubhouse crew. This means, that the pool is our summer vacation this year and said we''ll spend the next 250 years paying for it. Anyway, mommy wil post many photos, when we get the chance. Daddy even bought her a water proof digital camera so, we can take lots and lots of pictures. Lets move on...
Hopefully, I wont'' speak to soon but, mommy may have found a way out of that nasty formula. Nope, I''m not drinking cows milk yet but, I''m getting closer. I''m now drinking goats milk and it taste quite mmm mmmm good. Let''s just hope every thing on my backside, stays coming out, normal, if you know what I mean. Also, I''m eating just about everything in site, including mommys knee, when i get the chance. It doesn''t last long, as she gets just a little upset. I''m trying to get this sippy cup thing down but, I still love my baba too much. Oh yeah, mommy had a birthday on april 30 but, I can''t say how old she is but, she is super old, hahaa. Mommy, I wuvvvvv You, don''t be mad. Okay, I almost got in big trouble. Now, lets get to some more updates...
Lately, all I want to do is go outside and I run for it, when the door opens. As you would expect, right when I get to the opening, they close it on me and say the n word. NO! NO! NO! It seems like I''ll never get to play outside, like all the other kids. maybe one day, they''ll let me play outside. One of the good things about the pool is, they will be going outside more and that means, more outside time for little old me. Speaking of old, I''m only 7 months away from my birthday so, feel free to go to toysrus.com and place an order. I''ll take anything and everything, I don''t want any girl toys though, only boy toys. Okay, I''m probably pretty boring but, I wanted to give everyone a little update on me. I get my last RSV shot on May 30 and thats all for the season, this year. Hopefully, mommy will post some nice photos of me getting a little suntan on my muscular body. Boy Oh Boy, its not easy being me, its super easy. Also, happy Anniversary to mommy and Daddy, their wedding day is on may 11, 3 years married. Last but, not least, happy Mothers Day to mommy, the best mommy in the world.
Hi everyone this is mom with a quick update since Ry has been to busy to do one. We went to Ohio a couple weeks back to visit all of my side of the family. Ryland had never met them so it was about time. Well, he loved them and they ate him up as well. It snowed real good for one day so he had a blast. He is walking up a storm and starting to jabber like he knows what hes talking about. He eats like crazy now and he no longer is on his zantac for reflux. He gets his last RSV shot next month then he is finished until next years RSV season. We are working on getting a pool for this summer so im hoping to have a lot more pics of Ry having fun in the sun. Hope everyone is doing well and sorry for the late update. However sometime no news is good news. ;)
P.S Ry is finally starting to show some interest in his sippy cup. He will drink from ours all day long but, we have been having a hard time getting him to take his cup until now.
Okay, Okay, Okay, I know its been a while but, here is my update.
My life is just getting better, as the days pass. I''ve just about figured out this whole walking thing, at least up to taking 4 or 5 steps. After that fifth step, I sometimes make it and sometimes I crash and burn. Daddy said that was a "top Gun" 1986 reference or something. Mommy and I have officially renamed daddy to crazy man.
My fingers have figured out how to pick up cereal and cheetos so, I can feed myself now. Although, sometimes I put way too much in there and it causes me to choke a little. I''m getting better and better at it each day. Mommy also lets me have other foods that are small and baby friendly.
Over the past week, I''ve had a little cold and it has me with a horrible cough. Mommy is giving me medicine and that medicine taste good. I''m just praying that I don''t have to get a shot or anything. Mommy told me the friendly RSV nurse is coming tomorrow, for my monthly surprise. Oh boy, I can''t wait and I love surprises.
Today, I will celebrate, what should of been mine and Raileys birthday. I''m at my 1 year corrected age birthday now so, we''ll see if any cool presents come my way. Hint, hint! Lets just hope mommy and daddy reads this very soon, if you know what I mean. I love you mommy and daddy.
Alright, I have to go now. I''m suppose to be sleeping and getting rested up for my Granny tonight. She is coming over and I cannot wait to see her. also, my grandpa from Indiana is flying down to see me next week and I am so excited. I''ve never met him and he''s only seen pictures of me. I just hope he brings me some new toys, I just love toys. he will have his birthday party down here with us so, should be fun. Hopefully, mommy wil get time, to put some new photos up of little old me. Gotta get going!
P.S. happy Birthday Railey, I love you bunches baby sis. Also, Happy early Birthday To big brother Trace March 19.
Ryland is thriving so much. In the last week he has been saying DaDa, Maaaa, BaBa and many other things that I cant even begin to try and spell. He tried to take his first step this morning. Although he wasn''t successful im sure he will try again soon. He now has 7 teeth and boy is he a biter. We are doing our best to correct him on it. I think he has gotten me real good 2 times. Boy, those baby teeth hurt. He also is weighing in at 22.10 pounds now. He is my little chunky butt thats for sure. I''m amazed and so proud of him when he does the smallest thing. Its like a miracle that keeps going right in front of my eyes. We are so blessed to have him and are thankful for it every min of the day. I''m sorry I haven''t posted alot of pics but, im slacking. I still haven''t even uploaded the x-mas pics. I will do my best to get to it right away. I will also be taking some more pics real soon. I hope everyone is doing well and I thank you for keeping up with our boy!
Well, it looks like our new little bean didn''t make it. It seems that it stopped growing at 6 weeks. It must have stopped just a couple days after our u/s. My gut told me something wasn''t right when I was measuring 2 weeks behind. It seems my body absorbed the baby and now I just have an empty sac. I will be having a D&C in the morning due to my body not doing what it needs. I think for now we are going to focus on Ry and enjoy our time with him. However we do plan on making him a big brother again in a year or so. Thanks to everyone who has called and are willing to help us out. We really do appreciate it alot.
Ryland is okay! Last night, Crystal began spotting and it stayed that way pretty much all night and this morning. Today, she went into and is presently still at the E.R. They did an ultrasound and found that she has an empty sack. We aren''t sure of the cause at this point. We just wanted to update on here, to keep us from telling the story multiple times. We appreciate everything and everyone, who has been there for us. We wil update more soon.
Hello! Okay, it''s been a couple weeks since the last update and I know everyone is wondering. At least, I like to think that many of you are wondering, what happened at the doctor appointments.
On December 26, we had an appointment with a high risk doctor about 90 miles from here. During the appointment, the doctor didn''t seem interested in wanting to deal with our case at all. Also, he didn''t do the TAC circrlage so, we decided to not seek him as the primary OB. Crystal had already booked an appointment with a regular OB and we had that appointment on January 2, 2008. We truly like this doctor and feel he will listen to us, if we have concerns or problems. He referred us out to a different high-risk doctor, that we seen on january 10. During this appointment, Crystal recieved an ultrasound to see how things looked inside.
First off, we were happy to know there is only one baby this time. The doctor, for some odd reason didn''t want to get exact measurements but,said the baby looked approx 6 weeks fetal age. Well, we know thats 100% impossible. The baby is around 8 weeks and if you check out the twins first sono photos, you will see this baby is much bigger, than the 7 week photos of the twins. The heart was looking good and pounding away. We hope to be able to upload a audio recording of the heart by the end of the month. also, in three weeks we''ll have a full measurement ultrasound, to determine exact fetal age. During this pregnancy, they are going to give Crystal the Macdonald circlage and treat her for preterm labor and just hope/pray we can make it much further with this pregnancy. although, personally I don''t have high hopes of that at this point.
Alright, I''m going to get on out of here, Ry is pulling up on my chair, trying to get to the keyboard. We''ll let him update you on his crazy life.
Ryland: Happy New Year!
My daddy sure writes long updates, you would think he has been doing this for a while. Anyway, enough about that and lets get on with me. New Years Eve I spent sleeping, I can''t stay up til midnight, its just tooo late. When I woke up, I felt really bad and started getting worse as the day went on. Mommy and Daddy took me to the E.R., to see what was going on. I had another respiratory infection and another ear infection. To make a long story short, they gave me some medicine and I was out of there. I''m doing much better now and my new teeth count is 6. I have 4 up top and 2 at the bottom. Today, I recieved my RSV shot and they hurted my leggy really really bad. Mommy said its for the best but, I''m not so sure about thatThe only thing I''m sure of is that, I am one cute baby. Oh yes, I''m gonna try to snag the cover of People next month. I don''t think its impossible but, it has a good probability. Okay, check out the photos of me and the new baby, that mommy uploaded. I''m getting sleepy and I must go now ZZZZZ. ZZZZ. ZZZZZ.
Hugs & Kisses To All,
Crystal and I also wanted to send out our thoughts and prayers, to my cousin and his wife, that lost there baby today, at 7 weeks. We wish nothing, but the best for them. We love you guys, don''t forget that and we''re always here for you.
Ryland: Merry Christmas To All and Especially Trace & Railey
As most of you already know, I spent last Christmas in the hospital. Mommy and daddy spent all day with me and had Christmas Dinner at Denny''s, then back to spend it with me. It was just like every other day though, they spent 8-10 hours with me each day. I was still getting use to being with out Railey in the isolette beside me but, daddy said she had to go away. Mommy told me she isn''t coming back but, hoping one day, we will see her again. We miss yyu Rai and Trace, just hoping your Christmas is okay, as ours isn''t complete, since your not here. Daddy said that some of the family doesn''t acknowledge that we miss her and even sometimes seem to think she shouldn''t be missed or they just can''t bare to mention that they miss her also. We just hope she is looking down upon us and make sure I get lots of presents. I sure hope they are getting lots of toys and fun stuff. Okay, moving on.
On Wednesday, mommy has her first doctors appointment and we''ll find out how the little one is doing inside mommys tummy. Daddy said I''ll get to see what went on, when I was inside mommy. It should be so much fun but, I just hope they have toys. Anyway, today is the day. It''s my very first Christmas at home with mommy and daddy. Also, it''s the first Christmas in Louisiana, not that its too much different. We are going over to my great grandpa''s house for dinner and to exchange gifts with our family. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that my cousin and his wife are having another baby, just a couple weeks after mommy. it will be so much fun and I won''t be the youngest baby anymore. Wait, that means I won''t be treated like a prince. Hmm, I''ll have to get back with you all, on that issue. My grandma from florida is visiting for the holidays and she is playing with me all the time. Today, I will ge to see both my grandma''s at the same time, life just doesn''t get too much better. Daddy had to order a new car seat, as I''m growing out of the newborn seat finally. Let me just say, this new seat looks quite comfortable and I can''t wait to take a ride in it. Oh yeah, I hear some noise in the chimney but, I''m not going out of the bedroom, I''ll wait until daddy comes get me, in case something is wrong.
(time passes by ... 10 minutes)
You guys will never guess what just happened. daddy said he saw Santa Clause leaving the chimney and he left lots of presents for me, like toys. Oh boy oh boy, I can''t wait any longer, I gotta crawl to the living room and start playing with the wrapping paper and toys. Oh yeah, crawling is a peice of cake. Let''s just say, I''m a professional crawler now. merry Christmas To All and happy New Year!
Wow, Ry just crawled out of here, faster than the space shuttle moves in space. Wait, he was sidetracked by the vacuum cleaner so, lets see how long that distracts him from the presents. Okay, he''s gone, it wasn''t very long. Either way, we''re looking forward to the doctors appointment tomorrow. We''re just hoping that everything looks good and possibly even have a tiny heart beating that we can hear. it''s going to be a great moment and we''re excited and scared. We just hope and pray that we can have a normal pregnancy this time and hope the days of preemies are over. Also, we want to wish the best to Brad & jennifer with their expecting baby in 2008. We just hope our babies aren''t far apart, instead of several months, like a 25 weeker etc would be apart. merry Christmas to all and may God Bless.
Bruce & the rest of our crazy house
Well, I want to thank everyone that is being supportive of us right now. We were very SHOCKED to find out I was pregnant but, are willing to handle anything thats thrown at us. We will be adding updates about the pregnancy along with updates about Ry. We figured it just made since to do it this way so we wouldn''t have to give out new links to a different web address and I think its a great idea for all the kids to be on 1 site. I''m hoping to have a doc picked out soon and im really nervous about my sonogram. I keep wondering if its going to be 1 or 2 babies in there. LOL...until then everyone take care.
Ryland: Christmas Is Almost Here and Santa Is Gonna Bring Me Lots Of Toys ... Hopefully
Alright, hope everyone is gearing up for Christmas these days. This will be my first Christmas at home with mommy and daddy. Last year, they spent Christmas with me in the hospital and it wasn''t as much fun by myself. Railey was no longer with me and we couldn''t talk anymore. Mommy and daddy was there though and spent hours and hours talking to me. It was a year ago, this past Monday, when she passed away. I miss her berry berry much. Well, I''m gonna go for now. I''m doing quite well, after the ear infection, my little cold, and now my teeth are hurting alot. I now have 4 teeth. Okay, daddy wants to talk now. Gotta crawl on out of here.
Ryland: Big 1 year Old
Crystal posted on Monday about the one year passing of Railey. I guess that, being that the day was so horrible for me, personally that I really don''t want to remember that day at all. I held Railey in my arms, as she passed away and my heart was breaking into an uncountable number of peices. My heart will never mend from losing our babies and December 10 wil never be forgotten.
Now, onto a different note, December 10, 2007 is going to mark a new anniversary as
well. On Monday, Crystal and I found out that she is
P R E G N A N T
As someone stated on one of Crystal''s message boards said, its our baby girl saying hello to us. Whether anyone else believes that or not, I personally don''t care at all. The irony of this is mind-blowing to me. Anyway, we hope that everythign will go much better this time. Crystal wil have to get a TAC circlage this time and hopefully it will hold perfectly until the due date. Okay, we''re gonna go for now and hope everyone is having a safe holiday season. New Baby coming August 2008.
Well, here it is 1 year since we said goodbye to our sweet little girl! When I sit and think about everything its as if everything is still fresh in my mind every look she had every sound she made. She was in so much pain and I know it was better for her to go home to heaven so she wouldn''t have to suffer but, I still wish she was here with us. I guess thats the selfish part of me. However, I know theres not a moment her and Trace are not watching over us. I feel them all around me and especially Ryland. I want to say THANK YOU to everyone that has remembered our little girl on this day and every day. We had some friends call us last night wanting to do something special for our little girl. Well, we decided we were going to make and ANGEL GARDEN and plant a tree for them. This will take some time to put together but, as soon as its done I will post pics and update everyone on the progress of it. Also, I want those friends to know how TOUCHED I was that they even mentioned her. A lot of people think its better to act as if it never happened but, it helps us to know she is remembered and that she has touched so many lives. So again THANK YOU VERY MUCH. I love you all!!!!
Please See Me Through My Tears
You asked, "How are you doing?"
As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you
looked away and quickly began to talk again.
All the attention you had given me had drained away.
"How am I doing?" I do better when people listen, though I may shed a tear or two.
This pain is indescribable.
If you''ve never known it, you
cannot fully understand.
Yet I need you.
When you look away,
I am again alone with it.
Your attention means more than you can ever know.
Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
They''re nature''s way of helping me to heal.
They relieve some of the stress of sadness
....but you are wrong.
The memory of my loved one''s death will always be with me,
Only a thought away.
My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not
give me the pain...it was already there.
When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless,
Not knowing what to do?
You are not helpless,
And you don''t need to do a thing but be there.
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
you''ve helped me
You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need.
Be patient...do not fear.
Listening with your heart to "how I am doing" relieves the pain
for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter.
Talking to you releases what I''ve wanted to say aloud,
for a touch of joy in my life.
I''ll cry for a minute or two... and then I''ll wipe my eyes
and sometimes you''ll even find I''m laughing later.
When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight,
my chest aches, my stomach knots...
because I''m trying to protect YOU from my tears.
Then we both hurt ME, because my pain is held inside,
a shield against our closeness and YOU,
because suddenly we are distant.
So please, take my hand and see me through my tears...
then we can be close again.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BIG BOY & OUR SWEET LITTLE ANGEL GIRL!
WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow...Its so HARD to believe it has been a year since everything happend. We didnt do much today at all we just went and had lunch with Ry''s GG and Grandpa! Also, he is FULL BLOWN CRAWLING now! That boy just gets up and goes! Thank you to everyone thats been there for us and to everyone who still checks up on the site!!!
Oh yeah I have LOADS of pics and some video to upload as well. I just have to find the time to do it. So please bare with me! I will have them up very, very soon I promise!
It has been a long month, just let me tell everyone that. also, pweeze don''t be mad, for my long delayed update. alright, here we go.
On October 30, I recieved my latest RSV shot in Orlando. Those things are hurting more and more each time. I just hope that is the last RSV shot ever. Something tells me that I''ll get another very soon.
On November 8, daddys cousin Brad flew down to see us in Orlando. Cousin Brad was going to drive our super big truck back, that contained all of my toys and my parents no fun stuff. Well, there stuff would be more fun, if I could hit or climb on it. Daddy said something about being grounded for 5 years, if I touch his stereo speakers. Let''s see, grounded for 5 years or play elsewhere, I''ll just play somewhere else for the time. After two long boring days on the road, we finally arrived at our brand new home. It''s great, much bigger and lots of places for me to hide from mommy and daddy, well, when i can run and hide. My glamorous granny was waiting to see me, along with so many other members of my great family. They all just treated me like a little prince and I was lovin'' it. Don''t get me wrong, I''m a big boy now but, baby was the word on that day. haha, it was the bestest day of the week.
The next week was kind of, how should we say this, completely BORING! Most of my toys were packed up still and I wasn''t able to sleep in my big crib. Mommy had to put me back in the small bed for a couple days. Finally, after some time, I was back in my own crib. See, that works on two levels, I was in my old crib, in my new crib. Okay, daddy just had to point that out, I just heard him mumble something about grounded for 5 years. Well, that just reminded me that I better just move it right along. Things are getting settled in now and mommy is just waiting for her new furniture to arrive so, we can have something to sit on in the living room. Daddy and Mommy decided to trash our old furniture and get some new stuff. Seriusly, its about time,t that stuff was older than 3 of me. Oh yeah, when I take a bath now, i get in the big bathtub with mommy. It''s just like a little swimming pool but, its inside. I''m not sure if anyone else knows about these things but, you gotta get one of your own. Okay, lets move on to current events.
Currently, I have two bottom teeth that are very sharp and a new tooth coming in on the top. Pretty soon, I''m gonna apply for a job, cutting trees down with my sawblade teefers. grrrrrrrr, cut the tree down. hahahaa, just kidding. Well, my birthday is in three days and I can''t wait. I''ll finally be turning 1 years old. yes, one years old, did I say one years old? Also, your gifts and presents are welcome, I love stuff from Toy''s ''R Us. I''m sure that was probably a given, on my part.
happy Thanksgiving to everyone around the world and thank you, to everyone, who gave me presents at my early birthday party today. Mommy and daddy decided to have it at thanksgiving, as everyone would be there already. OH yeah, my granny had to work this weekend. It was great and mommy will post the video and photos very soon. I''ve almost mastered crawling and i stood up in my crib for the very first time tonight, all by myself. Alright, daddy is gonna type up some stuff too. Happy birhtday Railey, i miss you.
Lots of 1 year Old Love,
Ryland is just getting lazy on those updates. If you notice, he kept remembering about the 5 year grounded threat. At this point, there is nothing he could do, to upset us for very long. I know this really isn''t the blog of Crystal and myself but, as most of you know, we''ve put in our personal thoughts from time to time. One year ago, Crystal was in labor with the twins and we were just praying to keep them hour by hour. After almost 3 days of terrible labor pains and the drama that Crystal had to go through, they were born. Most of you know everything that happened last year and it''s not any easier today, than it was when we lost our little girl. Today, during Ryland''s birthday song, it was fine, until we got to his name and my brain just quit. This was following a big breakdown this morning, that seems to happen fairly often lately. There should have been two names in that birthday song. It truly hurts just as bad, as it did last year, when we lost our princess. What the next few days will hold emotionally for us, probably won''t be great but, we''ll do our best for our little man. Holding our thoughts and feelings inside, will just create pressure build-up and won''t help at all. If you all don''t mind, please say a little prayer for our twins and their big brother Trace and there mom this weekend. It will be apreciated and we hope everyone has a safe holiday weekend and look forward to the happy holidays.
How to understand Parents of angels....
Do not worry that mentioning the name of the child will "remind" bereaved parents of their child. We remember our child every minute of every day. We want to talk about our child. Mention his name. One of our biggest fears is that he will be forgotten and one of our biggest joys is to hear his name.
Understand that we are parents without the right number of children. Because of this we experience over and over again fear, anger, guilt, sorrow, loss of future, isolation, abandonment. These are not steps that we work through but feelings that will continue to return forever with various intensity and in different forms.
Keep in mind that there really is no "closure" to the grief for the loss of a child. How can there be? Such loss is against nature and against all that we understand in the passage from one generation to the next.
What you say to bereaved parents is less important than that you say something. Ignoring bereaved parents is only adding to the burden of grief. Simply asking "How are you doing?" can be very helpful. But do it often.
When bereaved parents return to the workplace, make sure that you stop by, even if it''s just to say "hello." After the loss of a child, parents often feel as if they are starting all over. This "new life" is just in the infancy stage and a friendly word makes a difference.
Call bereaved parents just to let them know you are thinking about them. Don''t be insulted if they do not call you. Grieving saps energy for a long time.
Never think that grieving parents are somehow "holding onto their grief. "There is no such thing. The loss of a child causes endless grief that becomes part of the bereaved parent''s inner self forever.
Remember that grief is not a process that one goes through a step at a time. Grieving is a roller coaster ride, and it is circular. The first couple of years, we are numb. When the numbness goes away, we are shocked to see that the world has gone on without our child. When we come out of this numbness, we are different people with a new sense of what it is to be "normal."
When parents lose their child, their hearts are broken. A huge hole is left. This hole will never heal - only the jagged edges around the hole may heal with time. Our grief, not always in the same form and maybe not as intense, will be with us the rest of our lives.
It does not matter how a child died or whether he was one week old or sixty years old. Nor does it matter whether there are surviving children. There is something absolute about the loss of each and every individual child.
Certain times of year will trigger intense sadness. Birthdays, anniversaries of the death, holidays, Mother''s and Father''s Day, weddings and funerals are just some. We can never properly prepare ourselves for these days. A simple "I am thinking of you and I know this day must be hard" goes a long way with bereaved parents.
Okay, I''m gonna give a quick update on my health. My daddy caught a flu bug, somewhere last week. He became sick and had to go to the doctor. Well, he got some medicine and started getting better. Then, my mommy and I both caught the same buggy. This bug just will not go away. Today, I feel the worse of the bug so far. We''ll just hope that I start feeling better soon. Enough about that, lets move on.
It''s been a couple weeks, since I typed my last update. Lately, I''ve just been working on crawling but, just haven''t figured it out just yet. Mommy said I''m almost there but, I''m not sure at what point I even started to get there. Either way, I''m trying my best. Okay, lets update on our moving plans.
As I told everyone last time, we were suppose to be moved at this point. Well, we are still living among the mountain of boxes and boxes. Dad said that if mom doesn''t stop packing, at this rate, we''ll be sleeping on burger king napkins by Thursday. If things go as the new plans are set, we''ll be moving around November 9 but, who knows. If it doesn''t work out this time, we''re staying in orlando for another year. We shall see.
Also, my first big holiday is coming up next week. It''s going to be a spooktacular halloween for me, when I go trick or treating at sea world. Mommy said its like trick or treating and checking out cool fish as well. You know me, I''m all about candy. I can''t say what I''m going to be but, we''ll take some photos, i''m sure next week. Mommy never puts the camera down. Alright, gonna go for now.
Hugs and Kisses,
Ry, The Mystery Halloween Man.
P.S. Oh yeah, I almost forgot the topic of my update. My very first tooth finally popped up. It''s sharp and pointy. Daddy said it looks like a scary vampire tooth. Okay, mommy wil probably get a photo of it soon, you know her.
Hello! Sorry, for the lack of updates lately. We have been packing up all of our stuff. Plus, Ry and I have been quite sick over the last week. We''re hoping that Ry gets over this quickly, as he feels terrible and sounds even worse. Also, we''re ready to get this move out of the way and start to settle back down, before the holidays get here. Ry is gradually getting the crawling down pat but, still has to do some work. We hope he can pick it up soon. Yes, we''re gonna take him out for halloween, if he gets much better by Wednesday. Time will tell on that. Also, several people have been asking about his birthday coming up next month and we have no idea what he needs at this point. Our best guess is clothes for 9-12 months. We appreciate everyone, who has been there for us over the last year and the support we have recieved has been great. We just hope that everyone will remember our princess along with Ryland on their birthday this year. It wil be a very bitter/sweet day for us. Anyway, just wanted to cover those few things. We hope everyone gets lots of treats and very few tricks this year for halloween. Again, we appreciate everyone, who has been a part of our lives this year.